Rainy Wednesday
So...I'm checking in for my DAILY ACCOUNTABILITY! :D I have been logging in daily to read blogs, keeping the thought of the band in my mind constantly.
I did not run yesterday. I had full intention to run but I was sooo tired I decided I'd take a quick nap THEN run. Well this 1 hr planned nap turned into 6 hrs!!!!!! Sheesh! I must've been tired. So I woke up, loaded up on Vitamin C again, and did important stuff I needed to get done for the day. I am either running or hiking today. I'd much prefer to hike b/c it's only 73 degrees here right now. So rare and random!
I was planning this HUGE hike with Dominic today to go into the canyons of Superstition Springs to hike to Reivis Falls, 12 miles roundtrip to get to a 174 foot tall WATERFALL!!! Ehhhhh! So we planned it and I was talking to my mom about it and she just kept saying that Lloyd would probably be bothered by me hiking with Dominic. I ask Lloyd, he says no worries. Mom pressures me AGAIN. So I decide to head over to Lloyd's and have that convo in person. So we did talk about it and he "jokes", uh ohhhhhhhhh....when people "joke, joke, joke" means they are uncomfortable or uneasy...at least when they do it in the middle of a serious convo. So I knew he felt at least somewhat uncomfortable but I'm assuming he doesn't want to say "I don't want you hiking with this guy" so early in our relationship. So that night I decided...I guess I wouldn't go. BUT then I decided, I SHOULD go b/c it's my life, I love hiking, Lloyd's working, Dom loves going with me. So it just fits. THEN we get all these massive storms here in Phoenix. From Monday morning to "present time" it has rained and stormed almost nonstop. It's been like monsoon proportions and THAT is very exciting b/c our recent monsoon season blew, it was lame. But now it's all flooded, trees down, etc.
Note: I personally believe women can be friends with guys, even someone they slept with ONCE in the past, or someone who likes them (w/o the chics feelings being returned) etc AS LONG AS....there are rules in place. For me, I call them my "Dude Rules".
Wanna know what they are?
*There are NO rules when I am single and guy friend is single. Not as in, we hook up. But as in, I don't worry about what thinks looks like or how we are percieved when all parties are single. I do NOT hook up with my guy friends.
1. Do not go to the movies.
2. Do not do dinner at night.
3. Do not go to romantic places.
4. DO go to sporting events or to play sports and concerts.
5. DO do lunch gatherings.
6. DO go on day adventures, (road trip, hiking, etc.)
I personally have these rules in place because I have ALWAYS had more guy friends than chick friends. I am just that kind of woman that I have a dudely sense of humor, love guys, and just get along with men easier than most women. So I have 2 very close female friends, bff's....but about 15 close guy friends. :D
So lately, I have worried a little bit more about what people think about me, how I am percieved, etc. Like two months ago I went to the movies with Dominic. I was not breaking the rules b/c I was single. But then we went down to the river walking around, taking pics, hanging out and chatting on the beach. And he later asked me why I didn't upload the river pics to facebook and so I said "Because the pictures show us hanging out on the beach, you laid back, us chilling and then I stop taking pictures. So people on FB would assume that after I quit taking pictures, we hooked up. It'd be a natural assumption being that we were both single." Well that did not happen, but I just take stuff like that into consideration now!
xoxo,
Lizzle
I did not run yesterday. I had full intention to run but I was sooo tired I decided I'd take a quick nap THEN run. Well this 1 hr planned nap turned into 6 hrs!!!!!! Sheesh! I must've been tired. So I woke up, loaded up on Vitamin C again, and did important stuff I needed to get done for the day. I am either running or hiking today. I'd much prefer to hike b/c it's only 73 degrees here right now. So rare and random!
I was planning this HUGE hike with Dominic today to go into the canyons of Superstition Springs to hike to Reivis Falls, 12 miles roundtrip to get to a 174 foot tall WATERFALL!!! Ehhhhh! So we planned it and I was talking to my mom about it and she just kept saying that Lloyd would probably be bothered by me hiking with Dominic. I ask Lloyd, he says no worries. Mom pressures me AGAIN. So I decide to head over to Lloyd's and have that convo in person. So we did talk about it and he "jokes", uh ohhhhhhhhh....when people "joke, joke, joke" means they are uncomfortable or uneasy...at least when they do it in the middle of a serious convo. So I knew he felt at least somewhat uncomfortable but I'm assuming he doesn't want to say "I don't want you hiking with this guy" so early in our relationship. So that night I decided...I guess I wouldn't go. BUT then I decided, I SHOULD go b/c it's my life, I love hiking, Lloyd's working, Dom loves going with me. So it just fits. THEN we get all these massive storms here in Phoenix. From Monday morning to "present time" it has rained and stormed almost nonstop. It's been like monsoon proportions and THAT is very exciting b/c our recent monsoon season blew, it was lame. But now it's all flooded, trees down, etc.
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Note: I personally believe women can be friends with guys, even someone they slept with ONCE in the past, or someone who likes them (w/o the chics feelings being returned) etc AS LONG AS....there are rules in place. For me, I call them my "Dude Rules".
Wanna know what they are?
*There are NO rules when I am single and guy friend is single. Not as in, we hook up. But as in, I don't worry about what thinks looks like or how we are percieved when all parties are single. I do NOT hook up with my guy friends.
1. Do not go to the movies.
2. Do not do dinner at night.
3. Do not go to romantic places.
4. DO go to sporting events or to play sports and concerts.
5. DO do lunch gatherings.
6. DO go on day adventures, (road trip, hiking, etc.)
I personally have these rules in place because I have ALWAYS had more guy friends than chick friends. I am just that kind of woman that I have a dudely sense of humor, love guys, and just get along with men easier than most women. So I have 2 very close female friends, bff's....but about 15 close guy friends. :D
So lately, I have worried a little bit more about what people think about me, how I am percieved, etc. Like two months ago I went to the movies with Dominic. I was not breaking the rules b/c I was single. But then we went down to the river walking around, taking pics, hanging out and chatting on the beach. And he later asked me why I didn't upload the river pics to facebook and so I said "Because the pictures show us hanging out on the beach, you laid back, us chilling and then I stop taking pictures. So people on FB would assume that after I quit taking pictures, we hooked up. It'd be a natural assumption being that we were both single." Well that did not happen, but I just take stuff like that into consideration now!
Craziness right? Ugh! People...please help!!!!!! Give me your opinion!
Can women be JUST FRIENDS with guys?
Can a woman be JUST FRIENDS with a guy who has showed HE has interest in HER but she has told him SHE is not interested? Possible?
xoxo,
Lizzle
OK, you may think you are friends with a guy, but (and many guys I know have told me this) generally speaking, guys cannot be friends with a girl. They are usually attracted to them and do "friend things" with the girl in hopes of it becoming a "more than friend thing." So, to you, yes, you can be friends, but know that they probably view you as more than a friend or want you to be more than a friend.
ReplyDeleteUm I think woman can be friendly with guys but friendship is more like hanging out and things like that. If you are in a relationship than no I don't think you can be friends with another guy I think it just makes it too hard. But if you are single then sure you can be just friends why not, guys always want to make it into more don't they???
ReplyDeleteI think you are right I need to venture out into other stores other than Lane Bryant I am just scared lol. I'm not a huge shopper. Thanks for the congrats on the loss!
You look great by the way!!
Talk to you soon!
Breanne
www.ladylapband.blogspot.com
I think it can be done, but it's not easy and can make your signifcant other uneasy. I would be very uncomfortable if my hubby hung out with a woman, even if he said they were just friends.
ReplyDeletehey! So I think guys can be friends with girls and vise versa.....i think both parties need to understand its a friendship......and if your in a relationship and wanna hang out with one of your guy friends you should make sure the person your ina relationship with is ok with it.
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Yes! My real name is Cody! 10% of the time I hate it and wish my name was Sarah or Katherine or something. The other 90% of the time I really dig it :)
ReplyDeleteYes you can be just friends. Your rules sound really good. Yes you can be friends with someone who is interested...but it makes it more awkward if he states his interest. As for staying friends after a relationship...I don't know. I'm trying to stay friends with my most recent ex, but only because he's a decent guy. The others are losers and I want nothing to do with them!
ReplyDeleteI dunno i think they can be friends... i think there is always something underlining about it though.... id have sex with half of my male friends but i dont let myself or the fact they wouldnt touch me with a 10 foot pole would also factor into it ahahaha but its a fine line i think but i have a ridicilous amount of male friends.... i think its ok :)
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